Our oldest is home from school sick today. He has a sore throat, a head and neck ache, and he feels tired and achey. How do I know that Jacob feels this way?.....Because he told me so.
Last Thursday, I sent Gavin off to school on the bus. That morning he was a happy little guy and he seemed happy to get on the bus too. I was looking forward to getting some laundry done, and then I was planning to head to the store for some groceries. About an hour after he left our house, I received a phone call from his teacher. She said, "Gavin isn't his happy self. He cried all the way to school and he's been crying ever since he got off the bus. I thought you would want to know that something is going on. I checked his tube to make sure it wasn't pulling. We took his temperature. I looked him over for anything that might be hurting him or bugging him, but we can't find anything that could be wrong." I heard him sobbing over the phone, and this broke my heart!
I asked if she had tried taking off his shoes, because sometimes his toes get curled up in them, so she took off his shoes, and he stopped crying! She said, "Maybe that was what was wrong with him. I'll call you later if he starts crying again." About 10 minutes later, she called me back to tell me that he had fallen asleep and that all was well. So, I went about doing my chores and getting ready to go to the store. Ten minutes later, she called back to say, "He's awake and he's NOT happy!" She said that she was very willing to keep him there, but wanted to know if I wanted him to ride the bus home, if he continued to cry. I told her that I would be there in 20 minutes, and I left to bring Gavin back home.
When I got there, he was no longer crying, but he looked really sad and as if he'd been through a rough day! I went over to him and he sighed, gave me a little smile and started "talking" to me. I was so happy to see that he was alright, but I was wondering.....Why had he been so upset?!
It's so frustruating when you can't ask your 4 year old what is going on with him! He obviously had a reason for crying, but what was it?
Did he just need his Momma?
Because after I picked him up from school, he was his normal happy self! And, he has remained quite happy since that day!
Gavin isn't one to cry. He is a calm, and easy-going boy....until you put something in his mouth or get him wet anyway! Then watch out.....he will let you know he's not happy!
He does cry when he is scared or startled by something, but he is used to school and really likes being there. And, he does cry when something neurologically is going on with him. But, usually we know that something is off, because he has a seizure or he jerks, or he is really out of it....and after this he cries from whatever was going on. Maybe this was the problem, but they didn't see any of this going on. So, Gavin had us guessing, "What's wrong with him?"
When I was driving to school to pick him up, I thought for sure that something was really wrong. I worried the whole way to school. I wondered if he was hurting, or was he getting sick.....I hate not being able to ask him what is wrong! There is a lot of guess work when you have a child like Gavin.....But, thankfully I rarely have to guess what is wrong with him, because he's usually a happy guy!
I wish that Gavin could talk to me, like his big brothers are able to talk to me. But, since he can't, and since he isn't likely to ever talk, I guess we will never know why he had such a bad day at school that day.....and this makes me do a lot of pondering, and it also makes me feel a little bit sad.
Maybe Gavin just wanted to spend some time with his Momma.....?
If that was the case, I was happy to oblige him and I will always be happy to spend the afternoon with him! Besides.....I wasn't really looking forward to doing the laundry and getting groceries anyway! :)
"Let your eyes look straight ahead, and your eyelids look right before you. Ponder the path of your feet, and let all your ways be established." Proverbs 4:25-26